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"My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge..."

Hosea 4:6

You’ve probably heard this in church from pastors or from social activists or other such “liberated” or free-minded people. I know I have. And not just from these folks, but this as a phrase floating around, being bandied about as an idea, statement or prophecy. Others may know it by way of the phrase “Knowledge is Power” or “Knowledge is Key.”

Knowledge. According to dictionary.com, there are several types of knowledge including actual, constructive, personal and superior knowledge.

The main entry describes knowledge as a: awareness or understanding esp. of an act, a fact, or the truth or b: awareness that a fact or circumstance probably exists. And don’t overlook the “note” to this definition: “Knowledge fundamentally differs from intent in being grounded in awareness rather than purpose.”

Truly, knowledge by itself is not enough, but the lack of it destroys people. But is it better to have some than none? I would say yes and no. I believe that Hosea is referring to knowledge of God, but I can see superior knowledge, which is defined as 1: knowledge greater than that possessed by another; especially : awareness of a condition or fact that affects another who was not aware of it and 2 : the range of one's information, understanding, or expertise being a part of that "knowing" as well.

We all have varying opinions about the state of the black community and its ills and what we believe are both the underlying and blatant causes for our problems. Some think that it’s the “Man”, also known as the white man, holding us back. That he don’t want to give us no job and don’t want us to have nothing. That “he” is keeping us in the ghettos. Others disagree that we are holding ourselves back, that anything can be achieved through hard work, long study and perseverance; that we just need to stop being so lazy, get off our asses and do something (work hard, study long and persevere) about our circumstances.

Our issues and circumstances as a people are so complex and deeply embedded in our collective psyche that there can’t be just one answer or one solution for what we have experienced and what we currently face. What if everything everyone is saying is right? What if our problem is the sum of all these things, versus this thing OR that thing? Hmmm...what if...

Consistently we find ourselves behind the 8 ball, reacting to the things that happen to us. And in instances where we are proactive and ahead of the game, there is a roadblock which derails our progress and knocks us off track. Who wouldn’t be apathetic, discouraged and unmotivated after experiencing this time and time again? Some wouldn’t; they would keep pressing forward trying to get around the obstacles, but many would be completely immobilized.

This life is about more than simply living day to day, struggling to get by or about just having information alone. Superior knowledge is awareness of a condition or fact that affects another who was not aware of it. Seem familiar? Mmm...let’s see...Jim Crow, COINTELPRO, Trilateral Commission, the influx of crack cocaine, AIDS/HIV, etc., etc. And there are others. We don’t see shit coming until is up on us and we’re caught up in the midst of it, and this lack of knowledge is part of why this happens to us time and time again. Knowledge greater than that possessed by another...

I'm not finished with this, but I'll close with: It's time to get ahead of the game.

Sometimes when you reach out and expose yourself to someone to try to help them, you sometimes end up helping yourself. I believe this happened to me.

My plan was to visit my family for Easter, kick it with my best friend, and just enjoy myself. What I didn't know was that my cousins were in trouble, and that I would end up rallying my best friend and friends of hers to their rescue.

I am still processing everything that was shared over the weekend, and continuing to recover. The events were so overwhelming and (coupled with everything else that is going on inside of me) have brought me into a place where I feel more compelled than ever to take a deeper look into myself, who I am, and what it is I want to get out of life and to what I believe my contribution to the world should be.

At some point, I hope to be able to share...

Black Jesus Movie

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FIRST BLACK JESUS MOVIE AIMS TO UNITE BLACKS AND JEWS

LOS ANGELES-- April 13, 2006 -- “Color of the Cross,” an independent, biblically charged religious biopic, is based on the last 48 hours of Christ’s life and stands to be the most controversial depiction of Jesus to date. In this gripping, two-hour epic, Jesus is portrayed as a black Jew. This retelling of the biblical story from a black perspective seeks to repair the anti-Semitism that has been associated with the story of Christ.

The inclusion of Black Jews during Passover in the film makes a clear statement toward the shared history of African and the Middle Eastern cultures without being offensive. Unlike “Passion of the Christ,” “Color of the Cross” chose not to focus on the bloody torture of Christ’s crucifixion. Instead the film focuses on the human pain and suffering that Christ, the Disciples, and Christ’s family endured. “Color of the Cross” reaches across a cultural divide to inspire and challenge its viewers intellectually.

According to the film’s director, Jean Claude LaMarre, “To watch a black man on screen, being referred to as rabbi, or to see him partaking in a Seder meal and observing Passover really blurs the lines that divide blacks and Jews in this country. We are part of the same history.” “Color of the Cross” seeks to stimulate and awaken peace and unity between all races of people.

Recent programs such as the History Channel’s “Warriors of the Bible” clearly shows the diversity of cultures as they existed in the geographical region where the Bible stories occurred. And like many of the recent programs flooding the media such as the Book of Judas, Ron Howard’s “The Da Vinci Code,” etc, “Color of the Cross” also bases its story not just on scriptural interpretation but other historical data with many interpretations pointing to the fact that Christ very well may have been dark skinned.

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Relationships 101

I was watching the news this morning, and they had a segment about prenuptial agreements and how so many young couples have them as part of their marriage contract. They had some legal expert on saying how since the divorce rate is about 50% in America that couples should plan for it in the beginning. According to this guy, a prenuptial agreement takes the emotion out of an otherwise emotion-filled split. I guess it's supposed to make the break up less painful in a way.

Maybe I’m living in a fantasy land where I would hope that I’m only married once and it’s till death we do part, but isn’t it kind sad that people are anticipating a divorce before they even decide to get married??? It seems to me that if you approach marriage that way it would be more likely to fail. Why bother to put any effort into saving something that already has a plan in place to handle things quickly and easily should things not work out? (Let me just say that if either person is being abused or cheated on, that is enough cause to get the hell out of the marriage/relationship, etc!)

The other side of this it seems is that a lot of people are so much into celebrities’ lives that anything a famous person does tends to become a trend and is the fashionable “thing to do.” Some people try to live their lives this way, and I believe that a lot of what’s going on in our society is a reflection of the ideas people have gotten into their heads.

A friend of mine sent me this article and I thought I would share it. I’ve seen it before a really long time ago, but at this stage in my life, it rings so true and relevant for me. I know that not everyone wants to do what’s traditional or widely accepted as it relates to marriage and so forth, and I respect that. Everyone has to decide what they think is best for them. But I think that if maybe some folks would take the time to follow (or at least consider) some of the advice outlined here, there might be fewer divorces and less microwave marriages.

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FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER: Golden rules for finding your life partner by Dov Heller, M.A.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right! If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love!" I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound "not politically correct", there's a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: "You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone." You need a lot more!!!

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you'remarried for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2) you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line and marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving tobe good and do the right." So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self- absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage...for the worse!" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn't do your homework.

Another perspective... There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you.

Pay attention.. Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or appreciate you? The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye." Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important. Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.

If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:

1. TRUST
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6. SOME GETAWAY TIME WITHOUT BUSINESS OR CHILDREN
7. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch,notes, etc.)
8. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
9. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
10. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OFCOMMITMENT

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty and pain will replace.